I’ve been dancing around this issue for a while now. Related to my understanding I deserve to rejoice in life, I deserve all the pleasures life has to offer, there has been this layer of inferiority. What I mean is I ask myself, “Who am I to accomplish anything great? I’m just a girl from
I’ve been living in a gilded cage, accepting the subtle messages and indoctrination about what I can hope to accomplish in my life. “You’re not born into wealth or fame? The best you can hope for is a job that pays the bills, where you’ll work until your health starts to deteriorate, a faithful spouse, and good kids.” As my friend Mark from
Yet when I graduated from college I felt such despair because I wasn’t satisfied with that life. I wanted my life to be about more than just going to work and being social. And the good Lord answered.
My Creator sent me people to rattle my cage, to open my door. Last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine who is a little bit psychic. He started telling me all these things I will do and accomplish in my life. My first reaction was, “What? Are you serious? I’m just a girl from
When I asked my friend how to let go of my fear and my limiting beliefs he said in his (typically) chill manner, “You just do.” I wanted to smack him because how can it be that easy? Of course he’s right but for those of us who are, shall we say, more stubborn, I think this is where EFT comes in. And affirmations. And meditation. And all the things that help us move beyond our limitations. Because while I may not be able to do back flips and round offs right now, I certainly won’t be able to do them if I think I never can.
So I am flying out of my gilded cage and soaring to new heights. Knowing I am fully capable of accomplishing amazing things. Knowing if I continue to follow the signs and my heart’s desires my life will be even more fulfilling, more exciting, and bigger than I could have ever planned.
A friend of mine posted a youtube video that fits in really nicely with this. It lists all these people like Thomas Edison who was told he was too stupid to learn anything and how he should go into a field where he might succeed by virtue of his pleasant personality. Or Abraham Lincoln, whose fiancée died, failed at business twice, had a nervous breakdown and was defeated in eight elections. Or even one of my personal heroes, Elizabeth Gilbert, who when she wrote, “Eat, Pray, Love,” had no idea it would turn into this runaway bestseller and become adapted into a movie starring Julia Roberts. It just goes to show we don’t know what’s ahead and we are capable of so much more than we and others give us credit for.
So when someone comes along to rattle your cage, and they will, I hope you too will choose to fly out. To push through the fear, the insecurity, and the limiting beliefs. Yes the cage is comfortable and familiar but it’s too small for a bird of our stature. We deserve to spread our wings fully and fly freely. We deserve and are capable of so much more than we dreamed.
I envision a world where we cast aside the dogma and indoctrination our lives should progress in a certain way. I dream of a world where we move beyond limitation and lack to a place where we know everything is possible and our capacity to achieve is infinite. Where we know the world is big and broad and expansive. Where we know as we think so we become. Thus we think of ourselves as magnificent and glorious and capable of anything.
Another world is not only possible, it’s probable.
While I agree that it's important that we not feel limited in what we want to do, I disagree with your denigration of a life of "go to school, graduate, get married, have kids, retire, have grandkids, and then die" as a life that is small and dissatisfying. I aspire to exactly that kind of life – where I help create both a biological and chosen family that is loving, supportive, and open-minded. I am fulfilled by being social, by living a positive life and putting positive energy into the world. I don't feel the need to make a huge splash. I don't try for "big" things (for me, this would be working towards a higher ranking in rugby, or devoting myself to activism in my free time) not because I feel "limited" – I believe that I could achieve these things – but because I know that they will not make me feel as happy and fulfilled as living a life that you seem to consider small.
I know you have dreams and goals of being famous and publishing your book, and I hope that you achieve them. But I don't think you need to put down the dreams and goals of people who choose to take other paths in the process.
It is not my intention to put down anyone's lifestyle because it is extremely personal and individual. But also your life is already bigger than the 1950s dream. Ten years ago did you really think you would be doing all the things you are doing? And all the things you have done? You've already allowed yourself to be carried and exposed yourself to things I'm guessing you didn't plan on.
Mostly what this post is about is if you want to accomplish something more you can.